Right from when I was a little girl, I remember saying to family members the type of house I wanted to live in, or places I wanted to travel to, or the type of car I would like to drive. Everyone’s response was always ‘You need to marry a rich man for that!’. So, I could of spent my twenties in pursuit of a man with money, someone that was going to provide me with everything I dreamed of. BUT……….there are just a few things wrong with that, for me personally.
Firsty, I LOVE a good old fashioned love story. I know, that Alex and I are meant to be. I can’t tell you how right now, maybe I will save that for another blog post?!! I have seen a lot of ladies stay in relationships for finances instead of love, and that doesn’t sit right with me. Secondly, I am far too fiercely independent to let someone else provide for me. Now, before I get a back lash of opinion, I am not saying there is anything wrong with being provided for. I have very good friends, who’s partners are the bread winners, or Mum’s that have stayed at home (who I absolutely take my hat off to) and I love when Alex buys me a gift, or treats me to dinner. But, I also love knowing that I can take care of myself.
I have always been so inspired by women in business. I used to love reading autobiographies of successful women living in the fast lane, all down to their own hard work. I love seeing ladies suited and booted, looking amazing about to rock into their work place, looking like they own the place. Growing up, I loved the idea of the finer things in life, but I knew I wanted to provide them, but I also knew that it would take bloody hard work!
Many people that know me, will know I went on a bit of a journey with my ‘career’. Realising at 23 I had made a mistake with the degree I had taken, and knowing I wasn’t going to fit into the conventional corporate role, which I always thought was the key to my success, I knew I wanted to be self employed. I went down the route of owning a franchise. Very costly start up, which had to be financed, but for 7 years, I poured my everything into that business. It taught me a lot of business skills my degree didn’t teach me, and it taught me life skills. It also taught me that my traditional business ‘owned’ me, and that for as long as my hands needed to do all the work, I couldn’t have any freedom. I also knew, that you could earn all the money in the world, but if you had no time to enjoy it, it was all a bit pointless. One major lesson life in my twenties taught me, that life is short, and I intend to fully enjoy it and squeeze every second of enjoyment from it.
So…… alongside my franchise I began looking at other options. I didn’t actually know that I fell in line with million upon millions of the population that are all searching for that perfect ‘gig’, that extra way to make an income. So, I began ‘crystalizing’ shoes. Actually something that went onto be hugely popular but I listened to a NOT very wise person that told me I was ‘wasting my time’ and quickly gave up on that, then moved onto making gift cards, spray tanning, selling perfume, jewellery and clothing. I also dabbled at selling on ebay making all my money for a very expensive holiday but nothing was really setting me FREE.
My most successful side line business was my cake business that I had started with my Mum. Baking Love. This actually grew fairly quickly, and within a year, we had orders flooding in for weddings, hampers, we were interviewed on the radio, in magazines, and won a small business award. However, this business tied up my time more than any other. We were offered a contract to make a very large amount of hampers that would of given us a 6 figure sum, which we turned down due to the demands on our time. And, with that, I realised I still hadn’t found that business I was looking for.
One day, a girl I knew said to me ‘Are you just going to give up now, surely you can’t think of anything else to do?!’ My reply ‘I just need to keep looking, I know if I look for long enough I will find the opportunity that will make me a millionaire’
And…. here we are. Network Marketing flew into my life after I said no around 8 times because I was too busy searching for the right opportunity. A FREE opportunity like no other. All of the above, I had to pay out for. Some just for materials, some for advertising, some for the franchise rights. Here the opportunity was different. No overheads, you are your own advertising, no staff, no restricted hours. It all seemed like a dream. In all honesty, it still does feel like a dream. Everyday I pinch myself that a free opportunity has enabled me to change mine and my families life, and make a million dollars in commission along the way in just 4 1/2 years since saying YES. I had nothing to lose at all, but everything to gain.
Do I regret not saying yes sooner?! Sometimes. But, I believe everything happens for a reason, and I needed to go down a few wrong paths to bring me onto the right path. A path I am loving every second of. Not only has my life changed, but I get to help change the lives of so many others everyday, I finally have the freedom I craved, and yes…..I can provide. I feel secure knowing that I need nobody financially, and the reason that I am in my relationship is not because I need to be, but because I love to be.
To all my independent ladies out there, thank you for inspiring me, thank you for motivating me, and thank you for letting me know it is okay to want more, and to be more.
Love Em xxx